My partner reads every message I send on here, by agreement
- Looking for
- somebody comfortable being read by two people rather than one
- Experience
- Eight years, several arrangements, all of them open ones.
- Around
- the eastern suburbs, Sydney
Everything I write on this app is visible to my partner. That is not surveillance and it was not imposed on me. It is a rule we wrote together four years ago after a bad year, and it has worked so well that neither of us has suggested changing it. He does not reply and he has never once asked me to stop talking to anybody.
I say it in the first message now, because finding out later feels like a trick. Roughly a third stop replying at that point, which is entirely reasonable. What surprises me is how many of the rest visibly relax.
Forty one, eastern suburbs, switch, eight years in, and every arrangement I have had has been an open one with everybody informed.
What I want is an ongoing arrangement, one evening a week or so, that goes both ways over time. I am experienced, I am specific about terms, and I am extremely uninterested in secrecy of any kind.
Not looking for anybody who wants to be hidden from him. Not looking for a person who thinks an open arrangement means no rules, since ours has more rules than most marriages. And not looking to be the interesting story somebody tells their friends.