I skipped a good profile because we knew three of the same people
- Looking for
- somebody at least one step removed from everybody I know
- Experience
- Four years, one dynamic of a year.
- Around
- the east end, Glasgow
Last month a profile came up that was the best written thing I have seen on here in a year, and I swiped past it, because I recognised the background of one photograph and worked out within about a minute that we know at least three of the same people. That is Glasgow. The pool is big enough to have options and small enough that half of them come attached to somebody who will hear about it.
I am not proud of that decision and I think I would make it again. What I have learned is that discretion here is not about hiding from strangers. It is about the second and third circle, the people who know your sister or drink with your foreman, and there is no setting on any app that filters for them.
Thirty one, the east end, submissive, four years in, one dynamic that ran a year and ended when he took a job down south. Nobody outside the two of us ever knew about it, which was the point, and which is the reason I am still able to write a post like this one.
So my one unusual requirement is distance of the social kind rather than the geographic. If we work out that we have a mutual friend, I will say so and I will stop, and I would ask you to do the same without treating it as a rejection.
What I want otherwise is ordinary. A weekly arrangement with a shape, standing rules, somebody who notices when I have gone quiet. Not looking for an audience. Not looking for anybody who would enjoy the risk of being found out, because I would not.