Three months on the paid tier and it changed nothing at all
- Looking for
- the thing a subscription does not buy, which is somebody reading properly
- Experience
- Three years, one dynamic of five months.
- Around
- the west end, Glasgow
I paid for three months of the upper tier. The boost, unlimited likes, the panel that shows who has already liked you. My reply rate did not move by anything I could measure, and I am saying so out loud because I bought it believing I had a visibility problem.
I did not. Plenty of people were seeing me. The problem was the bio, and the problem with the bio was that I had written it to be acceptable to everybody rather than clear to anybody, and then polished it for eighteen months in the wrong direction.
Twenty eight, the west end, submissive, three years in.
So here is the clear version. I want a dominant who is genuinely paying attention, by which I mean the kind who remembers what I said about my mother in March and asks about it in June. Structure matters to me. Correction matters to me. Titles, equipment and anybody's intensity matter to me not at all. I am at my best with small daily rules and at my worst when somebody vanishes for a week and expects to pick up where we stopped.
Not looking for a first conversation that reads like a menu. Not looking to be assessed. Not looking for anybody who wants to make a joke about the money, because the joke was that I thought the problem was outside me.