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My wife knows I am on here, and that is the only reason I am

Posted as she_knows_why_here, 18 August 2026

Looking for
people who have been where I am now, to talk to and nothing else
Experience
None of my own. A long marriage and one very honest year.
Around
the south side, Glasgow

My wife knows. She knows what I am reading, she knows I made a profile, and she read this post before I put it up. That is the only condition under which I would be here at all, and it took a year of conversations to get to it.

Forty nine, the south side, no experience of any of this and no intention of acquiring any behind anybody's back. What I have is something I have known about myself for most of my adult life and never acted on, and a marriage of twenty two years that turned out to be strong enough to hear about it.

What I am looking for is conversation. People who came to this later in life. People who tried it and decided it was not for them, honestly, since I have read a hundred accounts of falling in love with it and almost none of the other kind. And people who can tell me what it looks like inside a long relationship rather than as a thing you go away and do.

Not looking to meet anybody for anything at the moment. Not looking for advice about my marriage, which is good. Not looking for a person who wants to be the one who shows me, which is a phrase I have now seen enough times to recognise the shape of.

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