A profile came up last month using my own words back at me
- Looking for
- a submissive who can write four sentences that are actually theirs
- Experience
- Ten years, two dynamics, both of them documented.
- Around
- the west end, Glasgow
In May a profile came up in my own queue containing three sentences I wrote. Not similar sentences. Mine, in order, with one word changed. I had spent a long time on that paragraph and I recognised the rhythm of it before I recognised the words.
I did nothing about it. There is nothing to do. But it explained something I had been noticing for a year, which is that a lot of the writing on this board sounds oddly the same, and I had been assuming that was convergence rather than copying.
Forty, the west end, dominant, ten years in. Two dynamics, both with terms written down and reviewed every few months, because I have watched friends' arrangements collapse from nothing more than ambiguity.
So the test I actually apply is simple. A useful first message contains one thing that could only have been written to me and one thing that is true about you and slightly inconvenient to admit. It takes four minutes and almost nobody does it.
What I want is a submissive who wants service to have a shape. Tasks with standards attached, reporting on time, and a clear route for telling me something is not working. Not looking for anybody who agrees to terms to be agreeable. Not looking to negotiate in the moment.