Forty tick boxes at sign up and not one of them is what I am for
- Looking for
- authority and being useful, with nothing sexual attached to it
- Experience
- Nine years, three arrangements, none of them sexual.
- Around
- the city centre, Glasgow
Signing up means working through about forty activities you might be into, and I ticked almost none, so the app decided I was a person with no interests. The only thing I actually want is not on the list because it is not an activity. It is being answerable to somebody.
Forty eight, the city centre, submissive, nine years in, three real arrangements and not one of them with a sexual element. What I respond to is being given a standard and held to it. Reporting in. Doing a thing properly because somebody who matters is going to check it. Two of those ended for ordinary reasons and one is now a friendship of eight years.
I know exactly how that reads in a queue where every second profile is a list of gear, and I know a proportion of you assume I will come round eventually. I will not. I am not repressed and I am not waiting to be unlocked, and anybody who arrives with that theory will be disappointed slowly.
What I want is a dominant of any gender who wants a service arrangement with clear terms, a regular rhythm and a review every few months. Not looking for somebody who agrees to it in writing and renegotiates it in a room. Not looking for a scene. Not looking to be anybody's interesting exception.