Neither of my dynamics came out of the stack, and I have stopped using it
- Looking for
- somebody who reads and writes rather than flicks
- Experience
- Eighteen years, two dynamics, both from written posts.
- Around
- the west end, Glasgow
Both of my long arrangements began with somebody reading something I had written at length and answering the specific thing in it. Neither came from the part of the app where you flick through faces, and I have now given up on that part entirely.
I am not being superior about it. I used it for years. What I noticed eventually is that everything it selects for is instantaneous, and nothing that has ever worked for me was instantaneous. The stack rewards a good photograph and a clever line. What I need to know about somebody is whether they will do a dull thing properly on a Wednesday in February.
Fifty three, the west end, dominant, eighteen years in.
So I read boards and I write to perhaps one person a month, at a length everybody tells me is excessive. My matches are effectively zero. My hit rate on actual arrangements is far better than it was.
What I want is a submissive who wants an ongoing structure with terms written down, a fixed evening and reporting between. Not looking for anybody who wants to be impressed. Not looking for a person who cannot write four honest sentences about themselves without turning it into a performance.