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My question is how many hours a week this actually takes

Posted as what_a_week_costs, 24 August 2026

Looking for
a practical answer from somebody who has been doing this for years
Experience
None. Two months of asking questions nobody wants to answer.
Around
Noord, Amsterdam

My question is not what any of it feels like. My question is how much of a week it takes. Hours. Whether it is a fixed evening or something threaded through every day. Whether people plan a month ahead or a Tuesday ahead. Whether it collapses when work gets busy, and what people do when it does.

Nobody wants to answer this. Every conversation I have had warms up nicely and then cools the moment I ask something that sounds like a timetable. I understand why. It is an unromantic question and I am a stranger who has done nothing. But I cannot evaluate something on accounts that only describe the good half, and I have read a great deal of the good half.

Thirty three, Noord, no experience at all. I have a demanding job and I am trying to work out honestly whether this is compatible with my life or whether I would be signing up to disappoint somebody.

What I want is one or two practical conversations. That is genuinely the entire ask and I have nothing to offer in return except attention and discretion.

Not looking to meet anybody. Not looking to be reassured. Not looking for a person who tells me it takes whatever you give it, which is what I was told twice and is not an answer.

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