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One question, asked in public, and then I will get off this app again

Posted as one_question_then_go, 22 August 2026

Looking for
a plain answer from somebody with no stake in what I decide
Experience
None. One profile, made in June, and this post.
Around
the west, Amsterdam

There is nobody in my life I could ask about this. Not a friend, not my sister, not the therapist I saw for a year about something entirely different. Every question I have would permanently change how somebody who knows me sees me, and I am not willing to spend that yet. That is why I am on an app instead of talking to a person, and I suspect it is why a lot of people are here.

Forty four, the west, married a long time and now not, no experience of anything in this world.

So here is the question. Is it possible to want the structure of this, the answerability, the being held to a standard, and want nothing at all of the physical part, and still belong on a board like this one? Or is that a different thing with a different name that I have not found because I have been looking in the wrong place?

I am not asking for a relationship. I am asking for the answer you would give in half an hour to somebody in a kitchen, if such a person existed in my life.

Not looking to meet. Not looking for anybody who wants to be the one who introduces me to anything. Not looking to be told what I obviously am, since three people have tried and all three said something different.

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If this one reads like your own head rather than somebody to answer, the tactics can wait. These three all happen before there is a first match to get wrong.

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