Everybody on this board knows somebody who knows you, and it shows
- Looking for
- somebody grown up about how small this actually is
- Experience
- Sixteen years, three dynamics, all of them quiet.
- Around
- the east, Amsterdam
The pool here is small enough to behave like a village and almost nobody writes that down. Within a year you will have matched with somebody who has met somebody you were once involved with. Within two, a stranger will mention a detail about you that you never told them. None of that is sinister. It is arithmetic.
I work on the assumption that anything either of us types ends up being read by a third person. Not because I think you are untrustworthy, but because a phone gets left on a table, a friend gets shown something funny, and an account gets sold. That assumption has made me a better correspondent. I write what I would be content to have read aloud, I do not send photographs, I do not ask for them, and I move to talking in person early.
Fifty, the east, dominant, sixteen years in, three dynamics all run quietly and none of which ever surfaced anywhere.
What I want is a submissive who takes that seriously without reading it as coldness. Discretion is a practice rather than a mood, and the people who are good at it are the same people who are careful about everything else, which is the actual reason I care.
Not looking for anybody who wants proof of who I am before we have spoken. Not looking to be added anywhere. Not looking for a person who assumes discretion means somebody at home, because there is not one.