do you confirm the night before or does that look needy

Meeting someone on Saturday, arranged on Tuesday, and I am now sitting here wondering whether to send a message on Friday night confirming it.

Argument for: things get forgotten, plans change, and I would rather know at nine on Friday than at two on Saturday sitting in a cafe.

Argument against, which is the one that has me hesitating: it might read as checking up. Or worse, as though I am expecting to be stood up, which is a slightly grim thing to communicate to someone before you have met them.

I am aware this is an extremely small question. It has nonetheless taken up most of my Thursday.

confirm. it is not needy, it is a diary. the people who find a confirmation message needy are the people who were not going to come

Confirm, and make it do some work while it is there. Mine says the place, the time, and that I will be the one in whatever coat. Three useful facts and it reads as organised rather than anxious, because it is giving information rather than asking for reassurance. The version that reads badly is the one that only asks whether we are still on, twice.

I will be the small dissent. I do not send one, on purpose, because I would rather find out on the day whether somebody is the sort of person who turns up to things they arranged. That sounds harsh and it has saved me a lot of time. If a person needs a reminder to keep an arrangement they made four days ago, I have learned something for the price of one coffee I was going to buy anyway.