Three years ago I sent the message people screenshot, and I deserved the block
- Looking for
- one person, ongoing, with the changeover discussed properly
- Experience
- Fifteen years in total, with a five year gap in the middle.
- Around
- North York, Toronto
Three years ago I sent somebody a message I am still ashamed of. She had written carefully about not wanting a particular thing, and I wrote to her about that thing, at length, because I had skimmed her profile and seen what I wanted to see. She blocked me, correctly, and I have thought about it far more than she would believe.
Forty seven, North York, and I put that first because it explains everything about how I use this app now.
I read the whole profile. I mention something from it. If somebody has written a limit, I do not ask about the limit and I do not treat it as an opening bid. A first message takes me about ten minutes and I send perhaps three a week. My reply rate went from almost nothing to about half, which is the least surprising result in the world and took me a decade to arrive at.
Fifteen years in this altogether, with five years in the middle of nothing at all while my mother was ill and living here.
Direction: I lead in long arrangements and follow in short ones. That sounds like an excuse and is simply what has happened every time.
I want one person, ongoing, weekly, with the changeover discussed properly rather than improvised in the moment.
Neighbour on one side, so I am careful about noise. Weekday evenings free.