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The pictures are four years old and it says so underneath them

Posted as four_years_old, 26 August 2026

Looking for
one person, ongoing, and I am genuinely open on direction
Experience
Fifteen years, two long dynamics, one of nine years.
Around
the west end, Toronto

The photographs on my profile are four years old and it says so underneath them. I get a message about it roughly once a month, almost always from somebody who believes they are the first person to notice a thing I wrote about myself on purpose.

Forty nine, west end. I have put on weight, there is grey coming in at the front, and I look like a woman of forty nine rather than a woman of forty five, which is what happened in the intervening time and is not a scandal.

The old pictures are still there because they are the only ones I have in which I am not identifiable to anybody who knows me. Every recent photograph of me is somewhere, with people, at something. Taking a new one alone in a flat with exactly the right amount of nothing behind me is a small project I have not got round to, and I decided saying so was better than pretending.

Fifteen years in this. Two long dynamics, one of them nine years, both with people I met long before any of it happened on a telephone.

What I want is one person, ongoing, and I am honestly open on direction. I have led for years at a stretch and followed for years at a stretch, and I would rather find the right person than the correct label.

Not looking to be told I am underselling myself. Not looking to be asked for a photograph taken today, holding something.

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