Forty options at sign up and not one of them is what I want
- Looking for
- authority and being useful, with nothing sexual attached to it
- Experience
- Eight years, three arrangements, none of them sexual.
- Around
- the eastern suburbs, Sydney
Setting up the profile meant working through a list of about forty things I might be interested in, and I ticked almost none of them, so the app decided I was a person with no interests. The only thing I actually want is not on the list, because it is not an activity. It is being answerable to somebody.
Forty nine, eastern suburbs, submissive, eight years in, three real arrangements and not one of them with a sexual element. What I respond to is being given a standard and held to it. Reporting in. Doing something properly because a person who matters is going to check. Two of those arrangements ended for entirely ordinary reasons and one is still a friendship.
I know how that reads in a stack where every second profile is a list of implements. I know a proportion of you will assume I will change my mind in month four. I will not. I am not repressed and I am not waiting to be unlocked, and anybody arriving with that theory will be disappointed slowly.
What I would like is a dominant of any gender who wants a service arrangement with clear terms, a regular rhythm, and a review every few months.
Not looking for somebody who agrees to this in writing and renegotiates it in person. Not looking for a scene. Not looking to be anybody's interesting exception, which is a thing I have been twice and did not enjoy either time.