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I learned all of this on message boards and now it is a deck of cards

Posted as everything_was_a_forum, 30 July 2026

Looking for
patience with somebody who is fluent in the wrong medium
Experience
Twenty years in, then a long gap, and now completely lost.
Around
the north shore, Sydney

Everything I know about doing this properly I learned somewhere you had to write in paragraphs. You posted, people replied over days, you read a person's arguments for two years before you ever met them, and by the time you did you knew exactly who they were. Now it is a deck of cards and eleven words under a photograph, and I am fifty six and hopeless at it.

The skills do not transfer at all. I write four hundred words and people read the first line. I ask a real question and get a reaction to a photograph. It is not that anybody is shallow. It is that the medium rewards speed and I only ever learned to be slow.

Fifty six, the north shore, submissive, twenty odd years of this with a decade of nothing in the middle while my marriage ended and my parents got old.

What I want is a dominant who also finds the format thin and is willing to move to something longer early. Write to me properly and I will write back properly. I am experienced, I am specific about what I want, and I am not fragile.

Not looking for anybody who wants to teach me the app, because I understand it, I just dislike it. Not looking to be told my age is unusual here. And not looking for a person who cannot manage more than a sentence, since that is the entire problem I am describing.

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