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What I want is to be answerable to somebody, and I am not sure it belongs here

Posted as want_to_be_answerable, 8 August 2026

Looking for
somebody who can tell me whether this is the right place at all
Experience
None. A single very useful conversation in June.
Around
the eastern suburbs, Sydney

What I want is to be answerable to somebody. To say what I intend to do and then be asked whether I did it. To be held to a standard by a person who actually notices. I have wanted this since I was in my twenties and I have never had a word for it, and I am genuinely unsure whether it belongs on an app like this one or somewhere else entirely.

Thirty six, eastern suburbs, no experience. The reason I am here rather than somewhere else is that this is the only place I have found where people describe the thing in a way I recognise. The reason I am unsure is that almost everything around it is about activities I have no interest in whatsoever.

So the question I am actually asking is whether there is a version of this that is quiet, domestic and entirely non sexual, and whether the people who want that find each other here or somewhere I have not looked.

I work in a job with a great deal of unstructured autonomy and I am not good at it. That is probably relevant.

Not looking for anybody who wants to fold this into something it is not. Not looking to be told I will change my mind. And not looking to be somebody's project, which is a phrase I have now read on this board fifteen times and understand perfectly.

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