Nine months on the paid tier and my reply rate did not move
- Looking for
- the thing a subscription does not buy, which is somebody reading properly
- Experience
- Three years, one dynamic of six months.
- Around
- the inner city, Sydney
I was on the upper tier for nine months. Unlimited everything, the boost, the panel that shows who has already liked you. My reply rate over that period moved by an amount I could not distinguish from noise, and I want to say so plainly because I bought it believing I had a visibility problem.
I did not have a visibility problem. Plenty of people were seeing me. The bio was the problem, and the bio was the problem because I had written it to be acceptable to everybody instead of clear to anybody. It was four sentences of pleasant nothing and I had polished it for two years.
Thirty, the inner city, submissive, three years in. Here is the clear version. I want a dominant who is genuinely paying attention, by which I mean the kind of attention that remembers what I said about my father in May and asks about it in August. Structure matters to me. Being corrected matters to me. Titles, equipment and intensity matter to me not at all.
I am at my best with small daily rules and at my worst when somebody vanishes for a week and expects to resume where we stopped.
Not looking for a first conversation that is a menu. Not looking to be assessed. And not looking for anybody who wants to make a joke about the money, because the actual joke was that I thought the problem was outside me.