I want the same evening every week for a year
- Looking for
- somebody who finds a standing arrangement appealing rather than dull
- Experience
- Sixteen years, three arrangements, the longest of them six.
- Around
- the Bronx, New York
I want one evening a week, the same evening, for at least a year. When I say that out loud people react as though I have proposed something far stranger than anything else on this board. Ask for a scene and everybody nods. Ask for a Tuesday, repeated, indefinitely, and you get a long pause.
Fifty, the Bronx, dominant, sixteen years in. Three arrangements, the longest six years, all of them built on exactly this. What repetition gives you is not routine for its own sake. It is a baseline. When you have sat in the same room at the same hour forty times you can tell instantly when something is off, and that is the entire skill of running a dynamic well. You cannot get there in a burst.
What I want from you is reliability and honesty in that order, and a life of your own that you are not looking to hand over. Structure, standing expectations between evenings, reporting that happens on time.
I am aware this filters out most of the people reading it, and I have made my peace with the arithmetic. One person for whom this is exactly right is the whole point of writing it down.
Not looking for anyone who needs novelty to stay interested. Not looking for somebody whose availability changes every fortnight. Not looking to be squeezed into a gap between other plans.