I paid for six months of the upper tier and nothing changed
- Looking for
- the thing the subscription did not buy, which is somebody paying attention
- Experience
- Two years, one dynamic of five months, ended when he moved.
- Around
- Manhattan, New York
I paid for the top tier for half a year. Boosted profile, unlimited everything, the feature that shows you who already likes you. My reply rate moved by roughly nothing, and I want to say that out loud because I bought it on the assumption that being unseen was a visibility problem.
It was not. I was being seen fine. The bio was the problem, and the bio was the problem because I had written it to be acceptable to everybody rather than clear to anybody. Twenty six, Manhattan, submissive, two years in, and I have finally taken the paragraph of pleasant nothing off my profile.
So here is the clear version. I want a dominant who is genuinely paying attention. I do not mean constant contact, I mean the kind of attention that remembers what I said about my mother in February and asks about it in April. Structure matters to me. Being corrected matters to me. What does not matter to me at all is intensity, or a title, or anybody's collection of equipment.
I am at my best with rules that are small and daily. I am at my worst when somebody vanishes for a week and expects to resume.
Not looking for a first conversation that is a menu of activities. Not looking to be assessed. And not looking for anybody who thinks the money I spent was the joke here, because the joke was that I thought the problem was outside me.