Submissive, and none of what I want is on the app's list
- Looking for
- authority and service with nothing sexual attached to it
- Experience
- Six years, two arrangements, neither of them sexual.
- Around
- the Bronx, New York
The app asked me to pick from a list of about forty things I might be into and there was no box for the only thing I actually want. Every filter it offers assumes the point is sex. For me it is not, it never has been, and I have spent six years explaining that to people who think I am being coy.
Thirty four, the Bronx, submissive. What I respond to is authority and being useful. Being given a standard and held to it. Reporting in. Doing something properly because somebody who matters is going to check. Two arrangements in six years, both real, both entirely without a sexual element, both ended for ordinary reasons like a job in another state.
I know how this reads in a stack where every other profile is a list of implements. I know some of you will scroll past on the assumption that I will change my mind in month three. I will not. I am not repressed and I am not waiting to be unlocked, and anybody who arrives with that theory is going to be disappointed slowly and expensively.
What I would like is a dominant of any gender who wants a service arrangement with clear terms, a regular rhythm, and a review every so often where either of us can say it is not working.
Not looking for somebody who agrees to this in writing and then negotiates it in person. Not looking for a scene. Not looking to be anybody's interesting exception.