Forty tick boxes and not one of them describes what I am for
- Looking for
- obedience and correction with no implement anywhere near it
- Experience
- Eight years, four dynamics, none of them involving impact.
- Around
- Brooklyn, New York
Setting up the profile means ticking your way through about forty activities, and I ticked almost nothing, which the app then translated into a person with no interests. What I want is not on the list because it is not an activity. It is being answerable to somebody.
Thirty seven, Brooklyn, submissive, eight years in, four real dynamics, not one of them involving being hit with anything. I respond to authority and to being held to a standard. The correction I want is a conversation I do not enjoy having. Not a bruise, not an implement, not something I will grow into once I am braver.
Three people this year have explained my own orientation to me. One of them at length, unprompted, in a chat window, while I watched the dots come and go. If that instinct is in you at all, we will both save time.
I work in claims, I am extremely dull on paper, and I am very good at doing what I am told when I respect the person telling me. That respect is the whole hinge and it is not automatic. It comes from watching somebody be consistent about small things for longer than they thought anybody was watching.
Not looking for someone who will negotiate me towards pain in month three. Not looking for a service arrangement where the point is the chores. Not looking to be anybody's project.