The tick list on my profile makes me look identical to everybody else
- Looking for
- a conversation that starts somewhere other than the checklist
- Experience
- Four years, three short dynamics, one very good one.
- Around
- Wynwood, Miami
My profile has a grid of little tags on it and so does everybody else's, and the honest result is that we all look like the same person wearing a different photograph. Mine says obedience, service, protocol, and about nine other words. Every one of them is true and not one of them tells you anything. I have watched people scroll that grid the way you scroll a menu and then open with a request for the third item.
Thirty one, submissive, I work in a print shop, four years in, and the best dynamic I have had started with somebody asking me what my Sundays look like.
So here is what the grid cannot hold. I am good under a clear structure and useless without one. I want somebody who will build a routine with me and then hold me to it, and who understands that most of what I want happens on ordinary days rather than at set pieces. Being trusted with small responsibilities does more for me than anything dramatic.
What I do not want is to be selected from a list. If your first message names an activity and asks whether I am into it, I will answer politely and that will be the end of it. Ask me something a profile could not have told you and you will get four paragraphs back, which is either a warning or an offer depending on how you read it.