Fifty five, on my own, and this is my first app ever
- Looking for
- somebody patient with a beginner at two separate things
- Experience
- None on an app. A long marriage in which none of this was possible.
- Around
- Coral Gables, Miami
I met my husband before any of this existed and we were together twenty six years, so the first time I opened a dating app of any kind was in February, at fifty five, sitting in my kitchen feeling absurd. I did not know that a match meant nothing. I did not know that people write and then stop. I have learned both of those the way everybody does.
So I am a beginner twice over, and I would rather write that here than have it discovered. I have known what I am since my twenties and I have never once acted on it. No experience, a great deal of reading, and no illusions that reading counts for much.
What I would like is a dominant with the patience to go very slowly and the confidence not to need me to arrive fully formed. Someone who explains. Someone who will tell me plainly when I have got something wrong, because being handled carefully is worse than being corrected.
I am not fragile and I am not lost. I raised two children and I have run a department for eleven years. I am simply new. What I do not want: anybody who finds my age remarkable and says so, anybody who wants photographs before a conversation, and anybody who is in a hurry, because I have waited thirty years and another two months is nothing.