Log In Sign Up

The board · Miami · Dominant

Sixty, unhurried, and still in touch with everyone I have known in this

Posted as slow_and_i_stay, 27 August 2026

Looking for
somebody who wants years rather than months
Experience
Twenty five years, three dynamics, all ended as friendships.
Around
Coral Gables, Miami

I am the slowest person on this app and I have made peace with it. Somebody wrote to me in March, we exchanged letters of a sort for two months, met in May, and have seen each other four times since. By the standards of this city that is glacial. By mine it is exactly right, and I have three long friendships with former partners as evidence that the method works.

Sixty, dominant, retired from engineering, Coral Gables, twenty five years in this. Three arrangements, the longest eleven years, all of them ended without anybody behaving badly.

What I offer is structure that does not need to be dramatic to be real. Standing expectations, a regular day, correction in words rather than anything else, and a great deal of attention paid to what is actually going on with you. I am unshockable and I am not easily impressed, which people tell me is a restful combination.

I am not looking for intensity and I do not respond to urgency. If your message says you want to meet this week, I will assume you have not read this far. And I am not looking for anybody who wants a father figure, which is a request I get often enough at my age to mention. I am a partner in something, not a substitute for anything.

Reply to this post Replies go through your account, not this page. Nothing you send is published here.

What to have sorted before you reply

Answering this one means being screened and doing some screening. Two checks survive a confident opener, and one platform is where a real one has already left a trail.

Also in Miami

Every post in Miami →

Reading is free. Answering needs an account.

Put one of your own where people near you will read it, and answer the ones already up.

Open the app Already have an account? Log in