Two miles on the filter, which is as far as my courage goes
- Looking for
- somebody close enough that a first meeting is not an expedition
- Experience
- None. Five months here and one conversation that lasted a week.
- Around
- the South Bay, Los Angeles
Two miles, in a city where nobody sensible sets it under ten. It is not that I am unwilling to travel. It is that I know myself, and if the first meeting requires an hour of driving and a whole afternoon, I will find a reason not to go about two days beforehand, and then I will feel worse than I did before I started. Two miles is the version of this I can actually see myself doing.
Twenty seven, the South Bay, five months on here, no experience at all.
The obvious cost is that my queue is about nine people. I have made peace with that, and honestly nine people I could walk to is a better prospect than four hundred I will never meet.
What I think I want is to be given rules and to be answerable for them. I have wanted something like that for years without a word for it, and reading this board has given me the word and not much else.
Not looking to be anybody's first attempt at teaching. Not looking to be talked into widening the radius, because it is not really about the radius. And not looking for a long correspondence, since the whole point of setting it this narrow was to make actually meeting somebody possible.