A message from here came up on my car screen, with a passenger
- Looking for
- somebody who will not think my notification settings are about them
- Experience
- Four years, two dynamics, both quiet and both fine.
- Around
- the Valley, Los Angeles
My phone connects to the car and the car puts everything on a screen the size of a dinner plate, at eye level, for whoever is sitting next to me. In February a message from this app arrived in front of my sister. Nothing terrible followed. I told her a version of the truth and she was decent about it, and I have spent every month since rebuilding how this lives on my devices.
Thirty seven, the Valley, submissive, four years in, two arrangements behind me and neither of them known to a single person in my life.
Practically that means no previews, no sound, nothing on a lock screen, and I check twice a day at times I choose. It is not secrecy for the fun of it. I share a car and a house and a great deal of my week with people I am not going to explain this to, and I would rather build the system than rely on luck twice.
What I want is a dominant who plans in advance rather than in bursts, because bursts and my life do not fit. Standing rules. A weekly evening arranged a week ahead. Contact that is scheduled rather than constant.
Not looking for anybody who needs an immediate answer to know I am interested. Not looking for anybody who will send anything at all before we have agreed how I want to receive it. And not looking to be told I am overcautious by somebody who lives alone.