My first question is about your journey, not about what you like
- Looking for
- a submissive who can reach me on an ordinary weeknight
- Experience
- Sixteen years, four dynamics, three of them measured in years.
- Around
- north of the river, London
Before I ask anybody a single thing about what they want, I ask how they would get to me on a Wednesday and how long it takes. It strikes some people as unromantic and one man told me it was a strange way to begin. It is the most predictive question I have. Everything else can be worked out between two willing adults. A journey of an hour and twenty minutes each way, in the dark, after work, cannot be, and it will end us in month four.
Fifty three, north of the river, dominant, sixteen years in, four arrangements with the longest at nine years.
What I run is continuous rather than occasional. A fixed evening every week, expectations agreed and written down, tasks between times, and a proper review every couple of months where either of us can say something is not working.
I am patient, I explain myself, and I am not remotely theatrical. If you want somebody who performs authority in a chat window, I am the wrong person, and I say that gently rather than as a boast.
Not looking for anybody who wants to be called anything before we have met. Not looking for a long correspondence. And not looking for someone who answers the journey question with a sentence about being happy to travel, because everybody says that and about one in six means it.