Three times a week I explain that none of this is a transaction
- Looking for
- somebody looking for a personal arrangement rather than an arrangement
- Experience
- Thirteen years, three dynamics, all of them entirely private.
- Around
- north of the river, London
A dominant woman on an app spends a remarkable amount of time correcting an assumption. Several times a week somebody opens by asking what my terms are, or how a session would work, or some carefully worded version of the same question, and I have to explain again that this is my personal life and not a service of any kind. Most of them are apologetic. A few argue, which is its own kind of answer.
Forty eight, north of the river, dominant, thirteen years in, three arrangements all of them long and none of them known to anybody outside them.
I understand why the confusion exists. It is still tiring, and it is the reason my profile is short and this post is not.
What I want is an ongoing personal arrangement with a submissive who wants structure across a whole life rather than an evening: standing expectations, a weekly rhythm, tasks and reporting through the week, and a real conversation every couple of months.
Not looking for anybody expecting anything commercial, in either direction, at any point. Not looking for somebody who wants an experience rather than a relationship. And not looking to be addressed by a title by a person who has not yet asked me a single question about myself.