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Some of this I will not type into a company's database at all

Posted as not_on_a_server, 8 September 2026

Looking for
somebody comfortable leaving the detail until we are in a room
Experience
Fifteen years, three dynamics, all of them discussed in person.
Around
the west, London

There is a category of thing I will not write into this app, or any app, and it has nothing to do with shame. Everything typed here sits on somebody else's machine, gets read by automated systems, survives my deleting it, and is one badly configured afternoon away from being somewhere else entirely. So the detailed conversation about what we would actually do happens out loud, in person, once, properly.

Fifty two, the west, dominant, fifteen years in, three arrangements and none of the substance of any of them written down anywhere but on paper.

This frustrates a certain sort of person, who reasonably wants to know what they are agreeing to before they travel across a city. So I am specific in the abstract and vague in the particular: I run a structured weekly arrangement, authority over ordinary decisions, tasks and reporting, correction that is verbal. That is enough to know whether you want to meet me.

I am not secretive in a room. I will answer anything, at length, and I will not be coy about it.

Not looking for anybody who wants an itemised list in a chat window. Not looking for somebody who finds this level of caution paranoid, because I have watched two people learn otherwise. And not looking for a person whose first request is a photograph of something they can screenshot.

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