I keep finding out I was the reserve, and this app makes that easy
- Looking for
- somebody who is not running a shortlist with me on it
- Experience
- Five years, two short dynamics, both ended when somebody better appeared.
- Around
- north of the river, London
Twice now I have been three months into something warm and specific and been told, kindly, that a different arrangement has become possible and that I am not it. Both times the other person had been in the background the entire time. Both times nobody lied to me. This place makes it effortless to hold three people in reserve at no cost, and the cost lands entirely on whoever finds out last.
Thirty four, north of the river, submissive, five years in, two short arrangements and a lot of thinking since.
I am not asking anybody to be exclusive in week one. I am asking to be told the truth about the shape of things. If there are three conversations and I am one of them, say so and I will decide what I want to do with that, which is a different experience from finding out in June about something that started in March.
What I want is a proper ongoing dynamic with standing expectations and real contact. I am steady, I am patient and I am extremely good at this when I am not being quietly assessed.
Not looking to be the sensible option. Not looking for anybody who describes their other conversations as nothing serious. And not looking for a person who thinks not asking is the same as not lying.