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Nine years on these apps and I have never once met anybody from one

Posted as nine_years_never_met, 25 August 2026

Looking for
the first meeting, at last, with somebody patient about that sentence
Experience
Nine years online, one arrangement, all of it in writing.
Around
the city centre, Glasgow

Nine years, four apps, hundreds of conversations, one arrangement that ran eleven months, and I have never sat in a room with any of them. All of it has been writing. I am extremely good at the writing and it has become the thing itself rather than the way to the thing.

I am saying it plainly because it is the single most relevant fact about me and because I would rather you knew before we spent a spring finding out. It is not fear of people. I am fine with people. It is that a chat window is a place where I can be exactly who I want to be, at my own speed, with the difficult parts edited, and a room is not.

Thirty five, the city centre, switch, nine years of this.

So the thing I am actually asking for is a first meeting, in daylight, somewhere public, early, with somebody who will hold me to it rather than let me talk them out of it in week three. That is a lot to ask of a stranger and I know it.

Not looking for another correspondence. Not looking for anybody who finds this charming, because it is not, it is nine years. Not looking to be managed.

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Which direction is on the table this month is not in the post, and asking flat out reads badly. That takes a conversation, and a conversation needs a room you can walk out of.

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