I will not do any of this in a room somebody else is subletting to you
- Looking for
- a submissive who has thought about the practical half of this
- Experience
- Eleven years, three dynamics, two of them long.
- Around
- the west, Amsterdam
I have been invited to more sublets than I can count, and I have said no every time, which people occasionally find insulting. It is not about the room. It is that a room somebody is subletting under the table is a room where the person living in it has no standing, and the moment anything goes wrong, however minor, they are the one who loses their housing.
That is not a risk I am willing to take on somebody else's behalf. It is also not a risk most people have thought about, because when you are twenty six and finally have a door that closes, the door feels like the answer.
Forty two, the west, dominant, eleven years in.
So I solve it at my end. I have my own place, no shared walls that matter, and no housemates. That is the single most useful thing I bring to this board and I am aware of how unromantic it is to lead with it. It is also, in this city, the reason half the conversations here die.
What I want is a submissive who wants ongoing structure rather than an evening. Terms agreed slowly, a fixed night, reporting in between. Not looking for anybody in a hurry. Not looking to be a housing solution, which has been proposed to me twice. And not looking for a person who cannot discuss any of this plainly.