Fifth install. I can tell you the exact shape of the cycle
- Looking for
- a dominant who will set a date three weeks out and not move it
- Experience
- Everything by text, nothing yet in a room.
- Around
- North York, Toronto
This is the fifth time I have installed this app and I can recite the cycle. Install in November. Write to eight people. Get three replies. Take it seriously in January. Delete it in February. Feel fine until the following November.
Four times through that, and the fifth is why I am writing something instead of swiping. Twenty nine, North York, submissive, and the honest experience line is that I have done all of this by text and none of it in a room.
The cycle is not really the app's fault and it is not the winter's either. What happens is that somewhere around week six I start picturing the actual meeting, and the picturing is worse than the wanting, and I remove the thing before anybody can be let down. I have thought about this a lot recently, mostly at four in the morning, and I am fairly sure that is the whole mechanism.
So here is the ask and it is small. I would like a dominant who is willing to be slow about a first meeting and completely immovable about the fact that it will happen. Set a date three weeks out. Do not shift it. Two check ins a week in the meantime. That is the structure I need and I have never once asked for it directly.
Not looking for anyone to tell me the post is brave. Looking for somebody who holds a date.