I am verified, I sent the video, and it was still not enough
- Looking for
- one video call, five minutes, and then an ordinary weekly dynamic
- Experience
- Three years, one dynamic of eighteen months.
- Around
- downtown, Toronto
I have the badge. I sent the video. Last month a man asked me to hold up a piece of paper with the date written on it, and I did, and he then asked for a second one with my hand in a particular position, and that was where I stopped.
Thirty one, submissive, downtown, three years in. I understand why people check. I have been on the receiving end of somebody who was not what they claimed, twice, and one of those was a genuinely bad evening that took a while to shake off.
What I object to is the drift. It starts as a reasonable request and becomes a series of small tests, each one a little further than the last, and by the fifth you have agreed to something you would never have agreed to as an opening ask. That is not a safety process. That is the same technique wearing a safety label.
So, my position, stated once. I will do a video call before we meet. Camera on, five minutes, faces, no requests. I will not send photographs to order. If that is not enough for you then we are not a match and there is no ill feeling in it.
Otherwise what I want is ordinary and long. Someone in charge, weekly, in person, with rules that survive a Tuesday. I am not fragile about the rest. I am immovable about this.