I wrote four hundred words. The most common reply is hey
- Looking for
- months of learning from somebody who knows more than I do
- Experience
- One year, entirely reading, entirely online.
- Around
- downtown, Toronto
My profile runs to about four hundred words. The most common first message I receive is hey. The second most common is hi. I have counted, because counting is apparently how I cope with things.
Twenty four, submissive, downtown, sharing a place with two other students and a cat belonging to none of us. First year of a master's, so my time arrives in floods and droughts with nothing in between, and I can rarely see more than ten days ahead.
I am not being snobbish about the hey. Opening a conversation is hard, a long profile is intimidating, and most people are firing off twenty at once. But I wrote four hundred words on purpose, and the purpose is that I would rather be skipped by thirty people than have the same first three exchanges thirty separate times.
What I want, briefly: to learn something from somebody who knows considerably more than I do, over a long stretch, with the boring parts included. Not a weekend. Not an intensive. Months, and preferably years.
I will admit that I am better on a screen than in a room, that I know this is a thing to fix rather than a thing to build a life around, and that fixing it is most of why I am here.
Not looking to be somebody's evening. Not looking to be asked my measurements in the second message, which happened twice in June. And not looking for anybody who says they love to teach and then asks me nothing at all.