Sixty two, and I have learned not to read anything into two quiet weeks
- Looking for
- an unhurried arrangement with somebody who also has a life
- Experience
- Twenty years, three dynamics, all of them long.
- Around
- South Beach, Miami
The younger people on here treat a silent fortnight as an event. I have watched three separate conversations end because somebody was away without a signal and came back to a message saying it was clearly not going anywhere. Nobody had done anything wrong. The app had simply persuaded both of them that a gap was a message.
Sixty two, submissive, retired from teaching two years ago, and I have been doing this in one form or another since my early forties. Three dynamics, the shortest of them four years. None of them ended over a slow week, because none of them were being watched that closely.
What I want now is unhurried and specific. A regular arrangement with somebody in the same part of the world as me, seen perhaps twice a month, with obligations in between that I can carry on my own. I like being given standards and left to meet them. I do not need supervision and I would find it wearing.
I am not looking for anybody who wants to be messaged every morning. I am not looking for a project, and I am certainly not one. And I would gently ask people much younger than me to think about whether they want a person or an idea, because I have been the idea before and it is a lot of driving for very little.