Leading, I will drive an hour. Submitting, I want collecting
- Looking for
- somebody who finds an honest asymmetry easier than a polite lie
- Experience
- Eight years, two dynamics, one in each direction.
- Around
- the Westside, Los Angeles
Here is something about myself I only worked out by looking at my own calendar. When I am the one leading, distance is nothing to me. I will do the hour, twice a week, cheerfully, and I will organise everything. When I am the one submitting, I need to arrive somewhere with nothing left to give and I want somebody else to have handled the getting there. Same person, same city, two completely different relationships with a freeway.
Thirty six, the Westside, switch, eight years in, one dynamic in each direction and both of them good.
I put it in a post because a profile cannot hold a contradiction. There is one distance setting and one version of me in it, and the app has no way to say that what I am willing to do depends on which half of myself is showing up that week.
What I want now is honestly either. A submissive who wants structure and is happy for me to build it, or a dominant who wants to run something and does not mind that I will be useless at logistics while I am in it.
Not looking for somebody who wants me to alternate on a schedule, which I have tried and cannot do. Not looking to be talked into leading permanently because it is more convenient. And not looking for anyone who reads the driving thing as a hint about anything else.