I open with a proposal, not a greeting, and I am not going back
- Looking for
- a submissive who can answer a direct question directly
- Experience
- Fourteen years, four dynamics, two of them several years long.
- Around
- the South Bay, Los Angeles
My opening message names a day, a general area and a time, roughly ten days out, along with three lines about who I am. It is not a demand and it is not a test of obedience. It is a way of finding out in one exchange whether somebody wants to meet a person or wants to be in a chat window, because those are two entirely different hobbies and this app deliberately blurs them.
Fifty two, the South Bay, dominant, fourteen years in, four arrangements behind me with the two longest running four and six years.
What I run is unglamorous and it works. Expectations agreed before anything begins and written down where we both can see them. A standing evening. Tasks between times that are real rather than decorative. A proper conversation every couple of months about what is not working, which is a thing almost nobody does and which is why so much of this collapses in month five.
I am patient with beginners and impatient with people who will not say what they want. Those are not in tension. I will explain anything twice. I will not guess.
Not looking for anybody who wants to be addressed by a title before we have been in a room. Not looking to run a dynamic that exists only in text. And not looking for the person who answers a proposed Tuesday with a paragraph of warmth and no mention of Tuesday.