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I have one half of this at home. I am here for the other

Posted as here_for_other_half, 20 August 2026

Looking for
a submissive who wants structure from somebody with a full life already
Experience
Twelve years, one long marriage with one direction in it.
Around
the South Bay, Los Angeles

My wife and I have been together nineteen years and this has been part of it for twelve. She leads, I do not, and that arrangement is settled, happy and not up for renegotiation. What has become clear over the last few years is that the other half of me is real too, and that it is not something she wants or should have to provide. She knows I am here. She read this before I posted it.

Forty seven, the South Bay, switch by any honest definition, twelve years in and all of it with one person.

So what I am looking for is a submissive who wants a structured ongoing arrangement with somebody who is experienced, unhurried and entirely honest about where they sit. I have one evening a week and a fair amount of daytime. I am not offering a romance and I am not going to pretend otherwise in month two.

I know how this reads to some people and I would rather be filtered out early than be found out later, which is why it is in the first paragraph rather than the last.

Not looking for anybody who wants to be a secret, because you would not be one. Not looking for somebody hoping this becomes something else eventually. And not looking to talk anybody into an arrangement they have doubts about.

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Which direction is on the table this month is not in the post, and asking flat out reads badly. That takes a conversation, and a conversation needs a room you can walk out of.

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