Six months in, and I expected to have worked myself out by now
- Looking for
- somebody experienced who is not put off by an unfinished answer
- Experience
- None. Six months on the app and a great deal of thinking.
- Around
- the east, London
When I installed this in February I assumed that a few months of reading and a couple of conversations would settle the question. It has not. I know more words than I did, I have a much better sense of what other people want, and I am no closer to a sentence that describes me than I was at the beginning. That is not a complaint about anybody. It is just not how I expected this to go.
Forty four, the east, no experience of any of this at all.
What I have managed to work out is narrow. Something in the idea of answering to somebody, in an ordinary continuing way, does something to me that nothing else does. Whether that makes me one of the words on this board I genuinely do not know, and I have stopped trying to decide it in advance.
So what I am asking for is a conversation with somebody experienced who is content to talk to a person who cannot yet label themselves, and who is not going to treat the uncertainty as either charming or a problem to be fixed by trying things quickly.
Not looking to be told what I probably am after two messages. Not looking to be rushed towards a meeting. And not looking for anybody who wants to be the one who works me out, which has been offered twice and made me close the app both times.