Three people have told me that what I want does not exist
- Looking for
- the specific arrangement I have described, or an honest no
- Experience
- Eleven years, two dynamics, both of them close to what I am describing.
- Around
- Friedrichshain, Berlin
I want a service arrangement with a fixed weekly structure, no impact of any kind, formal address at agreed times only, contact twice a day, and a written review every three months. That is the whole specification and I have been told by three separate people that it is too particular to be findable and that I should be more open.
Forty six, Friedrichshain, submissive, eleven years in, two arrangements which were both roughly this and which both ran for years.
I am not going to be more open. Being specific is why both of those worked, and the two times I have compromised on the specification I have ended up in something that fell apart in a season. This city is full of people who state exactly what they want, so I am not sure why mine is the one that gets described as unrealistic.
If it is not what you want, that is entirely fine and I would rather hear it in one line.
Not looking to negotiate the impact question, which is a limit and not a preference. Not looking for somebody who thinks specificity means inflexibility, since I am easy about everything not on that list. And not looking to be told the sort of person I am looking for does not use apps, because two of them did.