My limits are the first thing on my profile, not the last
- Looking for
- a dominant who reads a list of limits as information
- Experience
- Six years, two dynamics, both of them agreed in writing first.
- Around
- Kreuzberg, Berlin
The top third of my profile is a list of things I will not do. Not softened, not explained, not apologised for. People who have used these apps in other countries tell me it reads as cold or as a challenge. Here it reads as somebody who has thought about it, and the conversations I have because of it start about four steps further along than they used to.
Thirty two, Kreuzberg, submissive, six years in, two arrangements both of which began with an exchange of exactly this kind of list.
What I want underneath the list is ordinary. Authority over how my week is organised. A standing evening. Tasks that continue when we are not together, and somebody who actually checks whether they were done. I am reliable and I am at my worst when nothing is being asked of me.
I will send you my full list early and I would like yours. Not as a form and not as a test. It is simply the fastest way for two adults to find out whether this is worth an evening.
Not looking for anybody who treats a limit as an opening position. Not looking for somebody who wants to discover my limits gradually by walking into them. And not looking for anyone who thinks writing it down removes something, because the two best things I have had both started with a document.