People here state their terms beautifully and never ask about mine
- Looking for
- somebody who asks a question after they have finished explaining
- Experience
- Seven years, two dynamics, one of them four years.
- Around
- Kreuzberg, Berlin
The directness here is genuinely a good thing and it has a failure mode. I get long, clear, admirably honest messages setting out exactly what somebody wants, how they run things, what they will and will not do, and then nothing. No question. The conversation is a statement delivered to whoever happens to be standing there, and I could be anybody.
Forty one, Kreuzberg, submissive, seven years in, two arrangements with the longer at four years.
I do not think it is arrogance. I think when everybody is used to declaring their terms up front, the declaring becomes the whole conversation and nobody notices the other half is missing.
So: ask me something. Anything specific. That is the entire filter and it removes about four fifths of my inbox.
What I want is an ongoing structured arrangement. Expectations agreed in advance, a fixed evening, tasks and reporting through the week, and a review when something stops working.
Not looking for anybody who has already decided what I am for. Not looking for a person whose first three messages contain no question mark. And not looking to be fitted into a structure that was fully designed before I arrived, which has happened twice and both times I noticed too late.