I withdrew from everything social and this app is what is left
- Looking for
- one arrangement, found privately, with no social element at all
- Experience
- Twelve years, three dynamics, the last two found on apps.
- Around
- Neukölln, Berlin
For years I did all of this the way people used to: through people, gradually, in company. Three years ago I stopped going out entirely for reasons that were mine and that I am not going to detail in an advertisement, and what remains is this application and the small number of conversations I have on it.
Forty two, Neukölln, switch, twelve years in, three arrangements and the last two both found on a phone.
That is not a sad story and I would rather it was not read as one. My life is quiet by design now, I am well, and the thing I have lost is not company but the informal way you used to find out who somebody actually was before you met them. On here everybody arrives without a history and you have to build the judgement yourself.
What I want is one arrangement, either direction, with structure: agreed terms, a weekly evening, obligations in the days between.
Not looking for anybody who wants to reintroduce me to a social life. Not looking to attend anything. And not looking for a person who needs mutual friends before they will meet somebody, which is entirely reasonable and rules me out.