I tell people I have no room right now instead of going quiet
- Looking for
- somebody who would rather hear a no with a date attached
- Experience
- Seventeen years, three dynamics, all of them long and one at a time.
- Around
- Prenzlauer Berg, Berlin
When I am in something I say so, clearly, to anybody who writes. Not as a boast and not as a brush off. There is a specific cruelty in this place where somebody stays vaguely warm and available in your messages while having no intention of doing anything, and I would rather be the person who says that I have nothing to offer at the moment and that it may be different in the spring.
Fifty two, Prenzlauer Berg, dominant, seventeen years in, three arrangements and never more than one at a time.
Some people take that badly, which I understand. Most say thank you. Two have written to me a year later and one of those became the arrangement I am now finishing.
I am writing this post because I am at the end of something rather than the middle of it, so for once the answer is different.
What I run is a weekly structured arrangement with obligations through the week, agreed terms and a proper review. Not looking for anybody who wants something to begin immediately, since I do not start anything within a month of ending something else. Not looking for a person who needs constant reassurance about the timing. And not looking to be somebody's next thing.