I tried to run two arrangements at once and I was bad at both
- Looking for
- one submissive who wants all of the attention I have
- Experience
- Thirteen years, four dynamics, two of them badly overlapped.
- Around
- Neukölln, Berlin
For about a year I had two, both agreed, both open about the other, everything done correctly on paper. It failed anyway, and not for any dramatic reason. I simply do not have the attention. What I do well requires me to notice small things about somebody continuously, and split across two people I noticed nothing about either and both of them felt it before I did.
Forty three, Neukölln, dominant, thirteen years in, four arrangements.
I mention it because this city is full of people who manage several relationships thoughtfully and well, and I am not one of them, and it took me a year and two apologies to establish that. It is a limitation rather than a principle.
So: one person, one arrangement, and I will say plainly if I am already in one rather than keeping a conversation warm.
What I run is weekly, structured and quite detailed. Terms agreed at the start, obligations through the week, correction that is spoken, a review every few months.
Not looking for somebody who wants a share of somebody's week. Not looking to be one of several on your side either, which is fine for other people and not for me. And not looking for a person who wants to negotiate that in month three.