Nobody here can blame the map, so tell me the real reason
- Looking for
- a submissive who will say plainly what they want and when they are free
- Experience
- Thirteen years, three dynamics, all of them long.
- Around
- the east, Amsterdam
In most cities the first two weeks of any conversation are spent on logistics. Which line, how long, whose side of the river. Here that entire conversation takes one message, because the answer is always twenty minutes on a bicycle, and what is left is the part everybody elsewhere gets to postpone.
I have come to think of that as the best thing about this board and the reason it is harder than it looks. When there is no map to blame, a stalled conversation is just two people who did not want it enough, and that is uncomfortable to look at. Forty seven, the east, dominant, thirteen years in, three dynamics and none of them shorter than two years.
So my first message asks two things: what you actually want, and which evenings you are genuinely free. Not which evenings you could theoretically rearrange. The ones that are yours. Almost nobody answers the second question and it is the one that decides everything.
What I run is ongoing and unspectacular. Written expectations. Reporting on a schedule. Correction that is a conversation rather than a performance. I am slow at the start and I take responsibility for nobody in the first month.
Not looking for somebody in a crisis. Not looking for a person who wants a title before we have met. Not looking to be impressive on a screen, since I am not.