One short voice note tells me more than a month of typing
- Looking for
- a submissive willing to speak before writing at length
- Experience
- Fourteen years, three dynamics, two of them several years long.
- Around
- Coral Gables, Miami
I ask everybody for a voice note early on. Thirty seconds, any subject, nothing to prepare for. It is not a test of confidence and it is not about how anybody sounds. It is that typed messages can be edited forever and speech cannot, and in half a minute of speech I learn whether somebody is nervous, whether they are performing, and whether the person in the writing is the person at all.
Forty seven, dominant, I run a repair business, Coral Gables, fourteen years in with three arrangements behind me. I send one first so nobody is being asked for something I am not giving.
The people who refuse tend to give the same reason, which is that they are somewhere they cannot speak, and I understand that entirely. Later is fine. Never is a different answer and I take it as one.
Beyond that I am fairly traditional about how I run things. A clear structure, a standing arrangement, expectations agreed and written down, and a slow start. I have no interest in anything that has to be arranged in a rush. I am not for anybody looking for one evening, and I am not for anybody who wants to be pushed hard early, because I do not start there and I never have.