My brother is on this app and we have never once mentioned it
- Looking for
- somebody who will never, under any circumstances, discuss me with anybody
- Experience
- Seven years, two arrangements, both entirely private.
- Around
- Didsbury, Manchester
My brother is on this app. I know because he came up in my queue two years ago and I know he knows, because his profile went quiet for a fortnight afterwards. We see each other most months. We have never mentioned it and I hope we never do.
I am not embarrassed and neither, I think, is he. It is simply that there is a version of a family where everybody discusses everything, and mine is not it, and I would like that to hold.
Forty one, Didsbury, submissive, seven years in. Two arrangements, both of them long, both known to nobody at all.
What this means practically is that I am careful in a specific direction. Not about strangers, who cannot hurt me. About the second circle: the friend of a friend, the person who works with my sister in law, the one who would mention it in a group chat as a funny coincidence without any intent to harm at all.
So: no face on the profile, nothing that identifies my work, no adding each other anywhere, and no exceptions later once we like each other, which is the point where most people's discretion quietly lapses.
What I want is an ongoing arrangement with terms agreed properly and a fixed evening. Not looking to be seen out. Not looking for a person who would tell one friend, since one friend is the whole mechanism.