I set the radius to four kilometres and blamed the city
- Looking for
- somebody nearby who will answer a beginner's first honest message
- Experience
- Eight months on the app, no conversations that went anywhere.
- Around
- Kreuzberg, Berlin
Four kilometres. That was my filter for most of a year and the reason was not convenience. It was that as long as I never widened it I could keep telling myself nothing had happened because nobody suitable lived close enough. I widened it in April. There are hundreds of people. That removed my last excuse and frightened me considerably more than the empty version ever did.
Twenty six, Kreuzberg, curious, eight months on here and nothing at all outside the app.
What I know about myself is small and I would rather state it than pretend to a position. I want to be told what to do, in a way agreed beforehand, by somebody who then checks. Whether that is a whole arrangement or one evening a week I genuinely cannot say, and everybody who has been kind enough to answer has eventually asked me a question I could not answer honestly yet.
So this is not a specification. It is an admission, plus a request for one slow conversation with somebody who does not need me to have decided already.
Not looking for anybody who wants to introduce me to a wider circle. Not looking for a person who reads not knowing as an invitation to decide on my behalf, which has been tried twice and was obvious both times. And not looking to be somebody's project, because I am curious rather than lost.